Rant: Chris Brown is Number 1 in the UK. Pleased with yourselves?

I have to write this blog because I am so fucking incensed and if I don’t get it out I might have to go outside and scream. Chris Brown’s latest song is number one in the UK which can only mean the idiots are out in force. I am honestly ashamed of my country, as if there’s ever been much to be proud of. This is it’s lowest point. After he beat the shit out of Rhianna, we banned him from the UK. No doubt now we’ll be rolling out the red carpet (as they did at the Grammys, which he gloated about) for the pop-prick scumbag. Every time I see his face it makes me want to smash my TV screen/ computer (but even I don’t do that because inanimate objects are worth something… more than women, apparently).
For every accolade you give this guy, another woman is suffering in silence. Another woman or young girl gets the message that it’s OK to be hit, and a guy gets the message that if you do hit a woman, give it a year, and it will all be forgotten. Hit the bitch. Do it.
And don’t accuse me of saying people can’t change. I know more than most that people can. People can change after they’ve taken a long hard look at their life and repented. But I’ve never once seen this piece of shit say sorry, all I’ve seen is his self-aggrandising, gloating and general aggression and bullying.
Maybe if he considered giving a slice (no, all) of the profits of his single to Refuge or Women’s Aid (or the American equivalent) we could imagine he’d taken one single step on the road to retribution. This joker isn’t even on the path to it. I don’t think he knows it exists.
The most disgusting thing about the whole sorry tale is that people (and specifically) women are defending him. I got into an argument with someone claiming to be a foster mother on Digital Spy defending him and saying ‘Rhianna probably provoked him.’ That woman is presumably fostering children from abusive backgrounds and proudly says she’s buying them the Chris Brown record. Talk about out of the frying pan and into the fire.
And it’s not like these comments are even 50/50. I’d say about 70% are defending this man and calling me crazy. Has the world gone completely insane? I was called a troll for standing up for women’s rights. Are women just too scared to speak up? It's like trying to talk sense into a hamster or a box of cereal these people are so willfully stupid.
Someone else said, ‘who are we to judge?’ Sentient humans, that’s who. I can look at the picture of Rhianna’s battered face after he threw her out of a car and judge quite easily, thank you very much. It’s not very difficult at all.
Others are saying, ‘What's his past got to do with his ‘talent’? Well I haven't seen Gary Glitter on TV lately, have you? Or is punching women more acceptable than abusing children? Well, that goes without saying, we’re just women, and we push those buttons and we ask for it, don’t we? Just ask Dennis Waterman.
‘Your personal life has nothing to do with your job’ – really? Tell that to doctors who sleep with patients, teachers who sleep with their pupils. It’s worse if you’re famous in a way because it doesn’t just affect you, the whole world is being given the message: ‘violence is OK’.
The people on Digital Spy (which should be renamed Digital Spite) are so pig thick, they can’t see what’s in front of their own faces. So I’m bitter and I should get a life. I’m stupid. Funny, because it’s that sort of language that’s how the whole thing starts, isn’t it?
Some other dickhead said ‘it takes two to tango’. I’ve never heard of a tango being done in the front of a moving car and ending with one person being chucked out of it and left with black eyes, and a swollen face, have you? Never seen that one on Strictly yet. Maybe next year.
The defence that ‘well Rhianna has forgiven him’ is paper-thin. Rhianna can do whatever she likes, including be an appalling example if she wants, that’s up to her and she’s young and from what I’ve seen in interviews, quite stupid. I’m not going to victim-blame. Whether she has forgiven him is neither here nor there. He should be made an example of. He should never be let on a TV screen or a stage ever again.
But 300 women a day are being turned away from refuges because of Tory cuts and they have to go home and face their 'Chris Brown' because they don't have Rhianna's money or status. She has set an appalling example by ever even speaking to him again, in my opinion, but that’s up to her. But think of those other women who plucked up the courage to leave, possibly with their kids, and got sent away from that refuge. Sent back home to that man. No wonder two women are dying at their partner’s hand a week: David Cameron is virtually beating them to death himself.
If you want to see what society is really like, click here. But they’ll probably lock that topic or delete my posts soon. Because women should just put up and shut up. Give Chris Brown another gong. Do a collaboration with him. Fucking disgusting.
PS: I listened to the song. It’s rubbish.

Rihanna: Here's your chance to be a role model

You can't have failed to read the story of pop singer Rhianna beaten up by her boyfriend Chris Brown (I can sing you a bit of Umbrella, but him, not so sure- perhaps that was part of the problem) whilst en route to the Grammys.
The story took several twists and turns. Firstly I found it shocking that the story even broke in the first place; you can only imagine how much of this stuff goes on and is carefully brushed under the (red) carpet? The fact this even scratched our radar proved it was something very bad indeed. Once the pictures leaked, it was unthinkable that she would take him back; why would she? A successful, independant pop star, greatly admired by people with you know, no taste in music, but don't hold that against her.
There was a positive moment when her dad spoke up and said 'At some point, she will speak out. I hope she will stand up for women all over the world.' My heart soared when he said that; I really hoped that would be the case. I looked forward to that.
And then...
'Role model' has always struck me as a horrible phrase; who would want to be one? When The One Show robots asked Moz if he has a responsibility to his fans, he replied, 'I have a responsibility to no one.' And thank God.
But the life of a pop show-pony is different. Rhianna (and Chris Brown) produce music for teenagers. It is all about appearance (because there genuinely is nothing underneath). It is image, image, image; if you look right, and can be marketed correctly, it doesn't matter how you sound. Look at the way Britney's meltdown has been all but erased, even though it's still written all over her face. If they say it enough times, maybe we'll believe she's that sweet little girl again, and not picture the hospital stretcher and the dilated pupils and the headshaving. Oh and don't mention the children, she sure loves those little boys.
In the rock/indie world, this kind of behaviour adds to your kudos. But the pop world is a different machine. The Simon Cowells and Pete Watermans want these people wrapped in plastic, saying the right thing. Domestic violence? That's an issue not conducive with the glitz and the glam- the lie.
Chris Brown is beneath contempt. I refuse to believe he could claw his way back into any sort of career; he has got to be finished (please don't let this statement come back to haunt me). Wife-beating is about one rung more sales-friendly as kiddy- fiddling, I'd hope. But Rhianna? She has the opportunity now for something amazing, something to be proud of, and that is to be a good example to every 18-year-old girl getting slapped around by her boyfriend, or any married woman getting regular beatings. If Jade Goody can really make thousands of women go and get a smear test, then Rhianna could make at least a few young women in awe of her look twice at their relationship, look twice at their face and realise they want it to stay pretty. They might think, 'if Rhianna can leave, so can I.' She needs to stand up and make a statement, and not just a verbal one, but one with her actions.
If she gets back with Chris Brown, what kind of message is that sending out? That even with all her money and success, she can't do any better. So God help women trapped in poverty being abused, or women so ground down that they can't see a way out. Because if even Rhianna's advisors, her PR machine, and apparently close family can't stop her going back, then what hope is there for the average women who you know, loves him, and he's nice 95% of the time, right, and he's so sorry afterwards (these things are cliches because they are true).
I don't believe what I read anyway, so hopefully it's not the case. But if it is, she could end up doing more unintentional harm to women than that thick fucking pig of a boyfriend of hers. And it may seem anti-feminist, and like I'm blaming the victim; I'm not. Because this is about women. But too many women have dropped the charges, only to see this man they love coming at them with a knife next time, or turning up with a shotgun, or murdering their kids, or their mum, or their new boyfriend, or the whole bloody lot.
I do believe that occasionally abusers who want to can change. But they can't change overnight. And they have to realise what they've done is abhorrent, not just be told it. And they have to be genuinely sorry; wait for a lot of time to pass, and in the vast majority of cases, to not be with that person they hurt anymore. Because those dynamics in that relationship have changed forever.
A story on Digtal Spy today says, 'Rihanna's father Ronald Fenty recently insisted that he would support his daughter's decision to rekindle the romance.' That's not a romance. It's a crime scene.